What I didn’t know about Pregnancy/Birth

2 Aug 2020


I’m excited to write this post! But I’m always excited to write any baby related content. 
Before I got pregnant I knew a little - the obvious facts, things you couldn’t eat, the sickness, that’s about it. I didn’t go in blind, but at the same time I’ve found my mind blown with the things I never knew came with pregnancy. The same goes with birth! The list has become long, with the amount of things I just never knew happened to a women during this journey. I have sister in laws who have kids, but when you’re not the one pregnant, there’s certain details that don’t get discussed! I’ve always been the type to do research on anything I do - so when we got pregnant, Max and I went into ‘baby overload mode’. I’ve read lots of books, we started watching programs (when you get over the drama you can learn things from one born) and google/the NHS website has become our best friend. I joined facebook Mum groups very early and with all these resources at hand, found I feel completely prepared the closer we get to our due date!

But still, I honestly cannot believe the things I didn’t know. Things I don’t think any women who is having her first child would know! I thought to myself ‘why aren’t women writing massive lists of things they never knew, so that new Mommas like myself are more prepared?!’ - so that is exactly what I’m doing. I hope you find this informative, helpful, take whatever you need from this post! But I hope it just makes things easier, when you encounter the new and unexpected in pregnancy or birth. 

BABIES COME OUT BLUE AND A LOT OF THE TIME NOT CRYING
I will hand on heart thank One born every minute for this one. Before getting pregnant I’d never watched the program - but they have the birthing centre/hospital on the program that I’ll be giving birth in, so obviously we binged the series. I never knew that babies come out not rosy pink! The first time I saw it I was almost panicked for the mother! But it’s completely normal. The amount of women who get themselves into a panic because their baby is blue and not crying, really makes my heart squeeze! This is definitely something I wish all mothers knew before giving birth. I definitely would of gone into full blown panic mode if I’d obliviously given birth and saw my baby was not only blue, but silent.

YOUR DUE DATE IS DETERMINED FROM WHEN YOU LAST HAD YOUR PERIOD
You’re 4 weeks pregnant, when technically you only conceived 2 weeks ago...yes it is that confusing. The first question you get asked from your doctor and midwife is ‘when was your last menstrual cycle’, and that is how they determine how far along you are. When I found out I was pregnant I’d just missed my period in January by 5 days, so when I popped to the doctors I was 5 weeks pregnant, seeing as my last period was the end of December. 

YOU HAVE TO GIVE BIRTH TO YOUR PLACENTA AFTER YOUR BABY
Luckily for me I read this in a baby book, but are you kidding me. I obviously haven’t given birth yet, but can you imagine how surprise I would of been to hear this on the day? You’ve just popped out your child and now it’s time for something extra? Lovely. 

YOU JUST PEE YOURSELF SOMETIMES. ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU SNEEZE
Yeah. 

THE RUSH OF LOVE YOU FEEL WHEN YOUR BABY COMES ISN’T ALWAYS IMMEDIATE
This is absolutely normal and I am so glad I have read/heard this lots of times. I would of felt so awful if when baby finally came, I felt no bond! I’d of not known why, I’d no doubt would of slipped into some sort of state, but it is 100% normal to have to get to know your baby. 

YOUR HAIR GETS SUPER THICK IN PREGNANCY, BUT IT ALSO SNAPS OFF
I’ve always had super thick, curly hair, but I’ve also shed hair like no other women has shed hair before. It’s awful - so obviously I was thrilled when I stopped finding hairs everywhere. I feel like it’s in super good condition thanks to pregnancy, but it’s also started to snap at the roots of my hair! I have little tuffs on top and where I’ve grown out my fringe. Super annoying.

YOU CAN BREATH OUT YOUR BABY
From looking into hypnobirthing, as well as watching positive birthing videos - you can breath out your baby, because your body knows what it’s doing. Your ‘up muscles’ move your baby whilst you’re dilating and then your ‘down’ muscles work to get your baby out - which is why sometimes on programs, you hear the midwife saying ‘just breath him out’. 

YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE THE BOTTOM STRAP OF YOUR SEATBELT AROUND YOUR BUMP
We looked into this really early, but I never realised this was even a thing. I just pull the bottom strap loose and hold it down below my bump, which doesn’t affect the strap going across my body. 

THEY CAN SEE IF YOUR BABY WILL HAVE A CLEFT LIP IN SCANS
This was something both me and my partner Max was blown away by! Unaware of what actually happens in scans, I was amazed at the list of things they can detect with your baby very early on. As early as our 14 weeks scan they can see if your baby is going to have a cleft lip! They will then know to take your baby straight for an operation, from birth and work on the lip. 

YOU GET A DARK LINE THAT GOES DOWN TO YOUR FUFF
This doesn’t happen to every pregnant mamma, but for absolutely no reason a dark line just appears from your belly button to your fuffi. It came quite early for me, but there’s no reason for it at all. 

STRETCH MARKS CAN HAPPEN AFTER BIRTH 
I haven’t yet given birth, but this is something a lot of mommas have pre warned me about! I’ve been using butters to keep my stomach clear and stretch mark free, but keep using it even on the day of birth! Women’s bodies go through so much when giving birth, so from the stretching and change it can all still happen after your birth date.

I am sure once I go into labour and have had a child for a couple of months, there will be many more things I could add to this list. I’ll probably write another about what I didn’t know about actually giving birth - as well as what we learn about our little joy. 

Until next time, J x